Hello rebellious readers,
Got our first human guest post (Valentino the cat was technically the first guest post) from Farouk Radwan. I commented on one of his guests posts on another blog and he visited my site and asked if he could write one for me on Solving Your Life Problems.
The topic intrigued me because we tend to complain endlessly about our problems, but take little action to rectify them.
Let’s give Farouk a warm, disobedient welcome!
Imagine you had the ability to solve each life problem you face.
You’d be happier and more self confident, right?
The problem with such assumptions is that life problems aren’t always simple and solutions can be difficult to find, not because some problems can’t be solved but because we try to solve them the wrong way or maybe we don’t try at all.
My suggestions for solving your life problems:
Are you trying to escape your life problem? I am not only referring to people who escape to drugs or bad habits but also to people who use less harmful escapement methods such as claiming to be busy all the time with their work in order not to face important life problems in other areas of their lives. Are you escaping? If yes, then know that you might consider going in the opposite direction of the escape if you want to live a happy life.
How much time are you allocating to your life problem per day? Let’s suppose that you have a problem with your social life, how many hours per day do you dedicate to solving this problem? Surprisingly, many people answer, “Zero.” How can you solve an important life problem without allocating any time to it?
Dedicate time even if you don’t have a plan: After reading the previous point something might come to your mind like, “I don’t allocate time to solve my problem simply because I don’t know what I should do about it.” Even if you are completely clueless about what you should do, you must still allocate a fixed amount of time per day to think about this problem. Talk to a friend, brainstorm with others who have similar problems or sit in a quiet place that allows you to find creative answers. If you commit to the time, sooner or later you will come up with an action plan.
Fight to commit to the plan: I am not saying that life is simple or that this plan will be the magical solution to your problems. You will still have to fight and to force your way through the bad moods until you manage to see some real progress that results from your efforts. People who solve their problems aren’t the ones who feel good all the time but they are the ones who work on their solutions even if they feel really bad.
Acceptance can be the solution: Never forget that acceptance can sometimes be the best solution to some of your problems but don’t ever fall into the acceptance trap. If you have a certain disability then learning how to accept it may be the right solution, but if you dislike the fact that, for example, you don’t have enough money then you will only be fooling yourself if you decide to accept this fact because you can do something about it.
My real life situation
Back in 2004, my main goal was to achieve financial security. I heard about the stock market from a friend and I started learning how to invest money. In 2005, I thought that I was on the right track because I was already making money but in 2006 I lost five years worth of savings in a stock market crash in a few months.
I was down at that time but realized I am the only person who can help me get out of this financial mess. I started my web site 2knowmyself.com, gave it six hours per day even though I had a day job at that time.
I faced numerous rejections, so many I can’t even count them all. But with hard work, persistence and determination I managed to become a dot com millionaire by the end of 2008. All because of the website.
I hope this shows you that giving time to face your problem can be the best way to help you solve it.
M. Farouk Radwan is a full time blogger. He is the founder of http://www.2knowmyself.com, a website that contains more than 600 self help, psychology and personal development articles. Farouk started his career as a computer engineer and then shifted his focus to blogging which later became his primary source of income and turned him into a dot com millionaire.