I have a tendency to lean towards the hysterical, the passionate, the out-of-control. It took me many decades to get there and I’m proud of it.
Because I feel alive.
Before I achieved “uncontrolness,” I felt trapped in my own body. I remember going to college basketball games wanting to cheer but feeling too self-conscious to do so. I often felt like the emotional bubble girl, bobbing along in this plexi-glass world where nothing got in but nothing got out either.
A kind of emotional hell, really.
Once I learned to let go of the need to control myself and others, it freed me to do all sorts of things. Like:
Go bonkers at “pretend they are open” municipal meetings.
Write kick-ass letters to the editor.
Craft opinionated op-ed columns.
Express my juiciness at networking events.
Break the rules and write my own.
Confront folks who try to intimidate others.
Wear loud and brash colors.
Live an out-loud life.
Do I get yelled at when I do this? Of course. Is it worth it? Of course.
Yes, a lot of folks DO NOT feel comfortable breaking any rules, especially the ones that would emotionally free them in any way. We’re raised to be hyper-obedient because the schools (then work) need it that way. How else would they get young children/adults filled with energy and life to sit at desks for hours on end, first at school, then at work – all continuous training for a life of being controlled and bored?
Kinda like braces for the mind. It takes years to train your mind not to bend out again after you take the mental braces off.
Where could you take your mental braces off?
A good lower-risk place to try for any of you small business owners would be at a networking event.
Step out of the accepted “what response” with a “why response” to that god-awful sleepwalking question, “So what do you do?” and you’ll get a range of reactions. Some intrigued (talk to these people more). Some perplexed but intrigued (talk to these people more.) Some freaked out/angry (Either ask them what freaks them out about your response or walk away from these people. They tighten their mental braces hourly and probably want to lean over and tighten yours.)
Thoughts on losing control? Yay or Nay? Love to hear below. Thx, G.