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Do What You Love And The Money MAY Follow

September 21, 2016 by Giulietta Nardone
“If you don’t build your dream, someone else will hire you to help them build theirs.” ~ Dhirubhai Ambani

About 15 years ago when I was working at a corporation, I stumbled on a book in a used bookstore called, Do What You Love And The Money Will Follow.

It was the first time I gave any thought to opening my own creativity-based business, which was odd given that my grandmother, grandfather and my father all owned their own individual businesses. My grandmother, back in the roaring twenties, owned her own dance studio. She produced local plays and recitals after graduating from Emerson College. If she were still around, I’d tell her that I’ve followed in her creative footsteps.When I did open my own business, even though I loved what I was doing the money did not follow very much.

Making your creative business thrive is a little more complicated that doing what you love. You have to deal with what I call the psychology of your business. If that is not addressed properly, you can learn to dislike what you love and end up back helping someone else build their dream.

The most important rule of business I have learned:

Whatever dogs you in life will follow you into your business. I sometimes think the greatest gift a business can give its owner is to highlight what dogs you in life. It is easy to get around this “dog” when you work for someone else. Much easier to hide from yourself in a cubicle. Most corporations don’t really want you to be the best you can be. The job description may state that, but it isn’t really wanted from what I observed.

They want you to do what you are told in the quietest way possible. To not rock their boat. To not rock your colleagues boats. And certainly not to rock your own boat. And to be afraid of losing your job 24/7. That way you will be less likely to even think of rocking any boat.

Interestingly enough, I saw people climb the corp. ladder who had few redeeming qualities other than that they were good at climbing over others. Some of the most talented people got fired or ended up on the lay off list early. If you spoke up about anything, you found yourself holding the short straw.

When you own a business, you wake up and deal with yourself every day. Your toughest client will always be you getting in the way of your own business. Owning a creative business is even harder than more traditional businesses because everyone loves to tell you that your idea is crazy or that you cannot make money doing “x.”

The first thing you need to do is face what “dogs” you and how that impacts your new or ongoing business. What dogged me was that I didn’t feel comfortable going up to people and blabbing about my business. I had been labeled shy in school, even though I was not shy as a very young child. When I had to wear glasses in third grade it turned my world upside down. I didn’t want to wear them, so I kind of retreated into this impressionist painting world where I didn’t see too much, especially people’s faces that looked like blurred out photos. That got labelled shy and before I knew it I believed I was shy and started acting accordingly.

Being shy can be a big problem when you own a business since a lot of business comes from referrals. To get over my alleged shyness, I went to an event one night and made myself talk to everyone in the room. It was painful at first but eventually I grew to enjoy it. I’ve met some terrific small businesses owners at networking events, many I am still friends with. I no longer consider myself the shy person others labeled me as. This also became the topic for my Chicken Soup For The Soul Essay, “Life Of The Party.”

My advice to any of you who want to do your own business thing, figure out what dogs you and find a way to overcome it. It will be your great life lesson, the one you need to turn around and face if you want to really do what you love and actually have the money follow.

Best wishes with your business or impending business!

Do You Feel Limitless, Like You Can Do Anything?

August 23, 2016 by Giulietta Nardone

“If you tell life what it has to be, you limit it, but if you let life show you what it wants to be it will open doors you never knew existed.”


Like so many people, I used to feel that I had to follow a certain life plan to be living a “good” life. Do x, y and z and your life will be marvelous.

Well, I did x, y and z and it wasn’t marvelous. It felt phony, empty and meaningless.

Fortunately, a town hall on the verge of a demolition gave me the chance to let my life show me where it wanted to go. I grabbed that opportunity to save the building and followed it – a kind of blind faith – and just like the quote above it led me to places I didn’t no existed. It also led me to parts of myself I didn’t know existed. I emerged as the kind of person, I’d always wanted to be but didn’t think I was.

Funny, how I couldn’t even recognize myself covered with the grime of conformity. I thought I was something completely different and then spent my life battling that phony version of myself. What a waste of energy!

I’m really grateful that opportunity in my town presented itself. The more I let my life lead, the more fabulous opportunities presented themselves.

I discovered there are many ways to go through life, not just the one I had been presented with and the one we continue to present to young people. I almost find it criminal the way we “push” our young to live this certain kind of life, steering them away from what there life really wants for them.

Only leads to depression and unsatisfactory lives.

When I follow my own curiosities, life never lets me down. I feel more and more alive and more and more opportunities present themselves. I feel limitless.

Take my paintings. I spent a good eight years copying things. I had no real clue how to paint from the inside out. I kept thinking “only talented painters can do that.”

Then I took a drawing class and told the instructor I wanted to draw from my own imagination. He encouraged me to do that and shared that his college age artists had a real difficult time painting from their imaginations. Then I realized that America faced an epidemic of rusty imaginations.

Now, I often start painting and see where it goes. I might start to do something and then get it halfway done and say, “No, this is not what this painting wants to be.” Then it kind of paints itself as paranormal as that sounds.

That’s why I love acrylics, it is the perfect medium for adventurous, wild painting that takes you on a safari into yourself. You can’t make a mistake.

I found this terrific, limitless video of Meghan, a star of Born This Way on A&E. She calls it Don’t Limit Me. This young woman has done what so many people are afraid to do – just do it.

Kudos to her for living a limitless life! Perhaps, it will show you ways to make your own life more limitless … Most of it involves busting through the limited versions of you often created by others but locked into place by our own fears.

I created and sold a small painting called Limitless. It is a woman flying forward through the air. That is what you need to do. Believe you can fly and do it.



Muse thxs,


ps my next wild painting program will be on Saturday, September 10, 1 to 3 pm. Please visit HERE for more info and to register.

Is Your Life Too Damn Safe?

July 11, 2016 by Giulietta Nardone

“To live a life of excellence, you will have to take risks. You will have to step into new territory and climb new mountains. If you’re up to something that’s as big as you are, it’s going to be scary. If it feels perfectly safe, you are probably underachieving. To leave your mark in the world, you will have to stand someplace you’ve never been willing to stand before. And you will have to have the courage to aspire to excellence.”

~ Debbie Ford

Despite all the May/June high school and college graduation speeches that encourage those graduating to go for the brass ring, doing so rarely happens in a life time.

The problem with those types of speeches is that everything leading up to them often runs counter to living such a bold and daring life. Those speeches wouldn’t be needed, if we encouraged our young to take chances. The look and feel of young life would be totally different than it is now. Thus, the inspirational speech the adults give to the young as a reminder to themselves to take risks before it is too late. (Note to self.)

Most of our lives are way too scripted and safety oriented. I read a few months ago that colleges are now looking for students who are different! They want something more off beat than the well-rounded students getting all A’s they’ve wanted for several decades. Fascinating but welcomed. Students will be able to follow their own strengths, perhaps.

If you want to always be safe, physically, emotionally, financially, your life will be driven by a lot of fear, a fear of losing instead of gaining. Most folks who make it big in business at one point risked most of the money they had. (more…)

Fun. Do You Really Have Enough Of It In Your Life?

May 24, 2016 by Giulietta Nardone

People rarely succeed unless they have fun with what they are doing.”
~ Dale Carnegie

I view every day as a chance to have fun. What is fun to me might not to be fun to you and vice versa. And that is okay. Only you can decide what passes fun muster for you.

It seems like we are having a fun shortage in the lives of many adults — and, frankly, now even children.

So many are being encouraged to follow generic lives with generic experiences and generic responses to achieve generic accolades given out by folks usually living generic, un-fun lives themselves.

Does that sound at all like you? Never? Sometimes? All the time? (more…)