Take Back Your Life!

Ruby Slippers, Anyone?

February 15, 2017 by Giulietta Nardone

Hello there,

This is a post I wrote back in March 2008 when I was blogger for the month at Skirt! Magazine. That was near the beginning of the blogging craze.

Thought you might get something out of it!

Thanks, G.

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Ruby Slippers, Anyone?

I enjoy writing essays because they force me to reveal my vulnerable side not only to the reader, but also to myself. Back in my late teens and twenties, I often felt trapped behind a locked emotional door. I’d bang, bang, bang on that little windowpane hoping somebody, anybody would unlock it, but no one ever did. Knuckles bruised and bleeding, I’d slump down against the door and wonder, “Is anyone ever going to rescue me?”

Many life experiences later, I discovered that the only person powerful enough to rescue me from behind that door was Giulietta. That I have always been the heroine of my own life.

And so have you.

You see, the “theys” don’t want us to know that each one of us has a pair of ruby slippers tucked away in a locked room. Special designer shoes capable of transforming our tentative womanistas into confident, powerful heroines who can leap tall solar-powered shopping carts in a single glass pump bound. The “theys” prefer we shuffle around with our heads down waiting to be rescued by a bouquet, a mate, a job title, a compliment, a new hair color.

Well, I got news for you “theys,” there’s a whole group of women reading The Month of Blogging Dangerously over here at Skirt! Magazine and we’re taking back the heroine night (and all the stars)! I mean really how long did you think you could keep us from remembering where we hid the keys to our own locked rooms?

Step aside “theys” …

Ladies, what do you say we unlock that room, put on our ruby slippers and do something heroic today? Maybe sign up for that course you’ve been circling in the continuing ed catalog for the past three years or get all fired up and pen that “letter to the editor” about a better way to run “fill-in-the-blank” or go down to your local animal shelter and show some timid feral cats a little love?

Me, I’m going to cyber hustle on over with my slippers to http://www.writers.com and sign up for this essay writing class called, “The Hero’s Journey for Storytellers.” It’s right up my essay-writing alley …

Muse thx

Giulietta
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Dive Into Live. Take Risks. Be Foolish.

February 8, 2017 by Giulietta Nardone
   “Until you’re ready to look foolish, you’ll never have the possibility of being great.”
~ Cher.”


My husband and I went to an Isley Brothers concert in RI a few weeks ago. It was great. I loved seeing folks in their 60’s and 70’s just singing and playing their hearts up there. For some of the tunes, we got up and danced in our tiny seat area. Interestingly enough, this wasn’t a big dancing crowd. In my twenties, I would have felt foolish doing this without a dance floor, but now I was like, “who cares?”I’d love to see a National Be Foolish Day. Yes, I know we have April Fool’s but that is about playing pranks on folks. This about doing something yourself that makes you feel emotionally naked in some way. Like just start dancing in the middle of the supermarket. Or walk up to folks and say, “I love life!” (If you do..)When I walk around the block, I sometimes do twirls or fancy footwork just so I can act a bit foolish. Once I got foolishness out of the way, it was easier to do the things I wanted in life. Easier to get that voice in my head to “be quiet already.”Speaking of that voice in my head, until I was 25 I thought I was the only one with someone else living up there. I thought I was crazy. Then, my sister and I were visiting a friend from another country here to learn English and she gave us a tour of her apartment. In her bedroom, I noticed a cross over the bed and said, “What’s that for?”

“Oh, the voice in my head tells me to reach up and touch it every night or something bad will happen.”

I said, “Wait, you’ve got a voice in your head, too?”

Boy did I feel better about myself after that emotionally corrective experience. I realized everyone was a bit nuts and that voice was normal.

Karaoke can definitely fall into the foolish category, especially when it is a big song that requires me to sing with emotion. I do and I enjoy it. To me, this is a performance and the audience wants to see me getting into the song! No way am I going to stand there and sing in a mousey voice!

How about you? Do you dive into life, take risks and be foolish? If yes, how does it make you feel? If no, how does that make you feel.

I’d like to see school classes that encourage kids to be more foolish, take more risks. dive into life more. It all feels very much the opposite. But, I think that is changing!

I read about this micro school movement called Wildhood. It gets kids outside learning. Here is a quote from their page: “According to research studies, children become more healthy, resilient and  intelligent when they spend less time indoors and more of their childhood outside in natural environments.” If you want to read more. Please visit them at www.wildhood.us.

I’ve been trying to get folks more wildhooded since 2004 when I ran my first program, “Freeing The Wild Woman Within.” It is what comes naturally to me, point out to folks they are in a cage, show then the door isn’t locked, stand outside and yell, “It’s great out here.”

Anyway, I guess that’s enough yammering for today. Hope to see you around, being as wild as possible.

Yours in eternal wildness,

Giulietta “Julie” Nardone

You Are Way More Powerful Than You Think

December 26, 2016 by Giulietta Nardone
Happy 2017! May it be the year you feel powerful.

“When someone tells you that you can’t do something, perhaps you should consider that they are only telling you what they can’t do.” ~ Sheldon Cahoon

It’s common for people to tell you, “oh, you can’t pull that off” or “why do you want to try that?” or “that’s impossible.”

If there is something you want to do, please don’t listen to other people who tell you it can’t be done. They might not be able to do it, but most of us can usually accomplish anything we put our minds to. Try it yourself and then decide if you can’t do it. Chances are good, though, that you can.

Many, many years ago, I quit my research job to make a career change to graphic design. I went to a head hunter and said I want the following things in a job: Flexible hours, the ability to mold it to myself and a boss that believes in me enough to let me be free. She said, “Those jobs don’t exist. But if I do find one, I’m taking it for myself.”

I didn’t sign up with that firm and went to another one and repeated my dream job to another headhunter. She said, “Let’s try to find it.”

A few weeks later, she called about a job.

I went on the interview and knew the minute I walked into the office that this potential boss was different than all the other managers I’d worked for. We talked. I showed him my design portfolio. He was interested in hiring me.

I said, “I need to be honest with you about who I am and shared my three wishes for the job.”

He looked at me and said, “Okay.”

It was that simple. What if I’d stopped throwing my dreams into the job wind and listened to that first downer of a head hunter? I’d have never known that I can conjure up what I want and make it happen.

People are trained to give their powers away at younger and younger ages in exchange for the “good kid stamp” or the “good student stamp” or the “good grades stamp” and then those becomes “the good girlfriend stamp” or the “good employee stamp,” etc.

You do what the theys want and you get the claps and awards and pats on the back and pretty soon you are a shell of your former self eager to please the people you think have more power than you.

But they don’t.

It’s better to please yourself and give yourself an award and learn about things on your own terms.

I can almost guarantee, you’ll feel more alive and love life more when you take your own power back. Giving away our power makes us feel weak and helpless and dependent on the approval of others.

Approve of yourself and reap the rewards!

Not to mention, almost NO ONE will ever ask to see your grades once you get out of school. I think one guy asked me when I was 23 and I ended up quitting that job because I didn’t like it. Other than that, not a soul.

Take a few moments to exam your own power.

Do you feel powerful? If yes, wonderful and congrats.

If no, try to figure out when you gave it away and why you gave away something that belonged to you, that benefited you, that was precious.

Do you want it back?

It is yours to take back.

You just need to give yourself permission to call your own shots, to question anything you don’t understand and to follow your own heart’s desire.

If it seems overwhelming to take it back all at once. Take it back in smaller pieces …

Are You True To Yourself Or Who You Think Others Want You To Be?

November 20, 2016 by Giulietta Nardone

“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” – Oscar Wilde

About 7 years ago, I ran a local program called, “Let Go Of Who You Aren’t: Be Your Perfectly Imperfect Self.” It had a few brave people in attendance. Honestly, like so many of my ideas it was simply ahead of its time. More and more, I’m hearing people discuss that topic. Sometimes, I’m just too early for the party.

Okay, we come into the world screaming to be ourselves and for awhile we are. Little kids tend to be honest and forthright. They speak their own little truths and its so refreshing. I worked with some children a few years ago. One of the little girls — an old soul in a young body — gave me a wonderful compliment: “You let us go wild in a good way.”

I loved that!

As for myself, I was wild for a lot longer than most because my mother did not send me to kindergarten. I went briefly to a nursery school in the bottom of our church where all we did was sit on our blankets, take naps and eat crackers. I remember doing little else and I have an excellent memory. (more…)

Be Brave With Your Life

October 12, 2016 by Giulietta Nardone

Be Brave With Your Life

“You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think. ” ~ Winnie The Pooh.”

Recently, I got two confident little kittens: Cleopatra and Spartacus. They are quite small, but that doesn’t stop them from exploring every inch of their new home and jumping to new heights every day.

When we first brought them home, they attempted to jump on the bed, making it about halfway. I’d un-cling them from the sides and help them up. Each day, they made it a little bit higher until they could get up on their own.

Today, I found Spartacus way up on the pinball machine and have no idea how this tiny kitten managed to get up there.

Clearly, he jumped. Even Cleopatra was looking at him trying to figure out how she could get up there as well.

They love to try new things, jump to new heights, tightrope across dressers and bureaus, often falling down between the sides. Sometimes, I find them clinging to the sides, other times they fall down and meander out the bottom like nothing ever happened. A few times I’ve seen them fall all the way down. They just pick themselves up and gallop down the hallway.

The kittens don’t know that they are technically too small to reach all these places, so they follow their own instincts and go after whatever attracts their interest. They keep trying until they get to the place they wish to be.

When I was a small child I did similar brave things. I’d scale rock-faced hills in my neighborhood, forge across streams, wander off from my home into nearby meadows.

A little bit older, I’d gallop my horse down hills over jumps, do back flips into the swimming pool, climb as high as I could into the trees in my backyard, walk alone through the woods for three miles to the barn my horse was kept at.

Honestly, I felt invincible.

That fearlessness got taken away from me of us by the time I entered my senior year in high school. I grew increasingly cautious and scared about doing all sorts of things. Physical and emotional. If I had an issue with someone as a child, I’d confront them. That became less frequent as I grew older, until I often said, “that’s okay,” when it wasn’t. The problem with “that’s okays,” is that they merge with previous “that’s okays” into a giant, festering “that’s okay” which makes you feel like the cowardly lion.

It’s okay to say “that’s not okay” and instead say what you want. At least that way you get your wants out into the open with the other person’s wants and it creates an opportunity to both get more of what you want.

Letting others push you around doesn’t help them or you. Once you grow up, others can’t send you to your room without your permission.

The more you flex your brave-heart, the easier it will be to stand up for what you want and even go after what you want. And, believe it or not, people will look up to you more when you assert yourself.

So, where do you say “that’s okay” too much? Good place to start the journey to being more brave..

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