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Are You A Slave To The Mundane?

August 5, 2017 by Giulietta Nardone

Are You A Slave To The Mundane?

“Life is too short to spend it living for mundane things.” Topsy Gift

I run a lot of programs, on-line and off-line. Most people sign up with the best of intentions, they are going to attend every week and really learn to write or paint or whatever else the program is about.

Sometimes even though they are enjoying the program, they confide in me that they need to bow out because something in their everyday life needs more attention. It’s never because they just won a trip to Borneo.

And I usually get great reviews even from those students who had to leave early.

So, they are getting goodies out of attending but something pulls them away from this new thing they looked forward to.

What is happening here?

The call of the mundane boots out the call for the new and different. Most of the time, it is fear whispering for them to get away from that new, different thing and come back to the safety of the known. Come back to Mama Fear and be a good little girl/boy. Don’t ever grow up and do your own thing. That isn’t good for the flock …

Humans are trained to want to feel safe, even if the safety harness snuffs out events that would make them feel energized and powerful.

Let me be honest, I struggle with this as well since I also went through the same training institute to be a frightened human. Since I can recognize it, I almost always push the mundane aside and go for the new. It always ends up being an experience so wonderful, I’m glad I didn’t let the scared part of my brain talk me out of participating in this new adventure.

One time I almost talked myself out of attending a Continuing Ed advanced logo design program. It was in Boston. Too far, I said. Too inconvenient, I said. Too many tolls on the pike, I said.

An inner strength reared its beautiful head and willed me to go.

It was an incredible program.

Not some big fancy program. Just a graphic designer making some extra cash. But he wasn’t an ordinary designer. He shared all his graphic design gifts, which he gathered after doing hundreds of logos. His gifts made me a superior designer. And I met some fabulous women in the class who I became friends with and we critiqued each other’s designs for years. We all worked together to create designs that went beyond the cliche.

I shutter to think that I almost talked myself out of that program, I would not have the logo design chops I have now if I succumbed to my own fears.

The mundane will be here day in and day out. The special events in our lives can be fleeting and brief, but leave you with an inspirational message or uplifting mindset or the courage to live the life you have imagined.

Perhaps, become more aware of how you try to talk yourself out of things and how the pull of the everyday can be nothing more than fear seducing you away from a new idea that might change you in a profound way.

Muse thanks, Giulietta

Be A Bad Ass Artist

July 8, 2017 by Giulietta Nardone

Be daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary. ~  Sir Cecil Beaton

Like many people, I have seen Wonder Woman at the movie theater. I’d watched some episodes of Wonder Woman when it was a TV show starring Lynda Carter and knew it was based on a comic book character created in 1941 by psychologist and inventor of the lie detector William Moulton Marston. Early feminists and a lover that lived with Marston and his wife provided inspiration.

It was fun to see a woman other than Angelina Jolie be a fearless bad ass. My favorite scene was the one where WW/Diana bursts into No Man’s Land, while the men are cowering in the WW I trenches.

Wonder Woman took a risk because she didn’t have another choice that sat well with her. She showed those around her how to get over their own fears and take action.

Some artists — and I’m grouping all kinds of creatives in here — can get frightened to try something new, especially if they are getting “the applause.” They get used to the applause or think they need the applause and get scared to deviate from the kind of work that gets the applause — even if they are bored to tears with their own work. (more…)

How Do We Find Each Other And Feel?

March 27, 2017 by Giulietta Nardone
“To see the world, things dangerous to come to, to see behind walls, draw closer, to find each other, and to feel. That is the purpose of life.”   

~ James Thurber, The Secret Life Of Walter Mitty

Okay, I finally watched the “new” Secret Life Of Walter Mitty, recommended by a good friend three years ago. .

I loved it! From the soundtrack to the story to the acting to the scenery and most importantly, to the message — it all spoke to me.

Walter works at Life Magazine, where there is the coolest quote in the lobby.

“To see the world, things dangerous to come to, to see behind walls, draw closer, to find each other, and to feel. That is the purpose of life.”

And it flashes up many times. At first, I had to rewind a few times to read it over and over. (The glory of the rewind button of second chances.)

I love all of the quote. Today, I decided to zoom into the later part, “to find each  other and to feel.”

People seem to be afraid to feel today. I remember when Princess Diana died in 1997  and everyone was crying all over the world, mainly people who had never met her — I immediately thought — it is a chance to feel something, to openly weep — things we are not encouraged to do.

In all my writing classes in person, there has always been one person who sheds a tear or even students who will not read because they fear shedding a tear. I always say the same thing, “It is okay to cry, it means something needs to come out through a tear.” (more…)

Refuse To Live A Boring Life

February 26, 2017 by Giulietta Nardone
“Boredom is a pleasing antidote for fear.”  ~ Daphne du Maurier

A lot of American appear to be bored, especially in the work arena. Studies report that 70% of Americans are not engaged with their jobs. Just long, long days spent getting to 5 or 6. The lives most of us are encouraged to follow don’t have a lot of purpose or meaning. Buy that next “simon says to buy” thing. Get that next bigger thing. Shop for that even next bigger, bigger thing.

My twenties were filled with boredom. There I was young and attractive with the world at my youthful fingertips, yet everything bored me. I didn’t know what to do with myself. I didn’t know how to take a hobby and pursue it. Sure, I went to the gym to work out so I’d look good, but doing something because it felt good, because it made me want to get up in the morning. That didn’t exist.It wasn’t until I hit my mid-thirties and began taking acting classes and singing at karaoke clubs that I sparked back to life. Finally, I had a purpose! (more…)